An acquaintance recently spoke about how she was frustrated that her maid was not completing all her given tasks. This was on top of the child caring, cooking etc that she needed to do. It struck me how much we are asking from the domestic help we recruit to care for our homes. There has been many occasions too when I had seen domestic helpers made to carry all the groceries and carry the child while the parents walk empty handed at the malls... and I wonder... do these people think that they have gotten a robot or worse yet do they think that the amount of money they pay these ladies' salarys have given them full authority to use every single inch of the maid's energy? Or whatever they can squeeze out of it... Even when I carry my baby, I try to carry some grocery bags... how do these people have the heart to watch the maid struggling and not feel anything.. to think that many of these maids are so small in size.

I think that the experience I had dealing with not so good maids and the time I had to manage the household myself made me more appreciative of my current help. To care for 3 kids, you got to bathe them, cook for them, feed them, play, clean chase after them, bring them to the toilet multiple times in a day, change diapers etc... I could not even think of cleaning the house, washing dishes is as far as I can go... not to even think that most times I did not even have time for myself, to bathe or even have a breather... so why is it that when we employ domestic help that the expectation is there for them to do all this? Or get angry when they are unable to fulfill it? I suspect that all those ladies who complain somehow have never held the short end of the stick before... I even try to tell my maid that she does not need to do some chores so often and the thing is she is not even caring for my kids full-time only helping my mum to do so.

My current helper spoke abt how when she was at her previous employer, she was allowed only one meal a day - a pack of maggi without any additions like veggie or meat. I was baffled and wondered why people would do that.. to expect the maid to work and yet not give them food? I have also read of people who begrudge or complain about the maid taking that extra scoop of peanut butter..

This people do not deserve a helper, they deserve to be treated the same way they treat their helper..

Put Plaster

Tasnym has a serious fetish with plasters - those that you place over a wound... only for her there need not be a wound.. as long as she got hurt, a piece of plaster need to be pasted over it to make her feel better and the tears go away. It has gotten to the point where we need to hide the plasters in the house or she would have them all pasted on her body... we can easily wipe out the nearest Watson's supply! Don't matter whether they have cartoon prints on them or simply brown plain drab ones - it is still a plaster!

Not just for her, she also gets very excited when others need a plaster and would have a huge grin on her face when you get a wound cos for her you can then "put plaster!!"

Sistas..

We were worried about Tasnym and how she would take to the baby but somehow her love for babies in general carried through to her baby sister. She has always taken a liking for babies, including toy ones and its no exception to Daniah. Wanting to hug, carry and kiss the baby at all times... to Daniah's dismay and apprehension of all those around... as Tasnym is sooo rough!

There was once I caught her carrying the baby and dropping the baby back to the bed when I turned to watch what she was up to... my heart practically stopped!

The 3 sistas

It is interesting how the 2 older ones fight so much and yet think of each other as well. Tasnym would never fail to ask for her sister when the latter is not around. And though she may snatch things from Sarah and refuse to share, she would remember to ask for the extra sweets and snacks from others on behalf of Sarah if she were to be given any. Sarah too does the same.

I just hope that the closeness they share now is carried through .. to be partners in support and love.

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