When Sandra Bullock declares that she does not understand Sg Maths, you know that your country’s education system and stresses has reached world level pinnacle, in terms of having curriculum that is known to be more challenging.
By now, I have already gone through 3 rounds of PSLE, 2 rounds of O levels and 1 round of A levels with many more to come.
The first round of PSLE was traumatic and brought with it hard lessons. That the expectations we had for our kids did not matter much, definitely not more than wanting them to be alive and being next to us, to grow and be the beautiful people we wanted them to be.
I know the reason why we want our kids to do well is cos we want their journey to be easier and not be so hard if they did not do well in their education. Sure there are stories of people who didn’t do well in their studies, doing very well in life. But these are few and far between and the reality is that they make use of the talents gifted them or had other blessings in life that helped. How many of us really have such talents or special supports? We may not have what it takes or the know how to build a successful business etc, may not have the gifts to sing well or perform. For most of us, it is the education that we have that becomes our insurance for that better life.
As I went through more rounds of national exams, I realised that the grades did not really matter. Sure we would be happy if they did well, rejoice and celebrate. But what mattered more was that they are happy. What’s the point of imposing our wants on them? It’s no longer our lives to live. We already had the opportunity to live ours and now its their journey.
Its hard to see them disappointed and upset with the results they get. You know they have tried and the only way now is forward in making the best of what they got. I realised when they didn’t do as well as expected, that I did not feel upset. Rather it was immense worry as to how they would cope with the results and manoeuvre their way through the system that lowers options as the results varies. I can rant about the system but what really can I do, no matter how much we rant, the system remains largely the same.
It may be hard but we need to trust that God has the best of plans for us, though it may not be what we thought we really wanted.
Who knows what my life would be like if I had gone to Mass Comm as I had really wanted years ago. Would my life be the same? I seriously doubt. But my life’s journey took me to where I am now, and its the best one for me.