A mama's world as this mama struggles through balancing parenthood with all the other roles she's got to play.
Wednesday, November 09, 2016
More Animal Planet
Daniah: No not yet, the fishes have not hugged each other yet.
Mama: Huh? How you know they are supposed to hug?
Tasnym: Oh we saw it on a video!
And for a moment I was silent wondering what video they had watched!
Tuesday, November 08, 2016
Animal planet
The girls were trying to get their fighting fishes to mate:
Tas: why is the girl playing hard to get? (As the male chases after the female around the tank)
Da: come on fishies! We want to see you do it!
Sarah: I want to see I want to see! (As she comes running out of her room!)
I am left thinking that these girls have been watching too much American tv. And it ain't animal planet!
Here's a pic of them being cute animals!
Monday, November 07, 2016
Death comes too soon
Yesterday, I found out that one of our partners has passed away last week after a battle with stomach cancer. cancer in itself is no longer anything new. What is usually more heart wrenching is how fast the cancer attacked and destroyed the person, and the ones left behind - in his case a 9 year old daughter. He had such a positive outlook and has even asked for people not to grieve at his funeral.
His passing reminded me of my uncle who went thru a similar situation and the cancer is so aggressive that death came so swiftly. He too left behind 2 young children.
Their deaths reminded me so much on the importance of being financially prepared cos we can never know when our last day will be - be it against cancer or other forms of death. And how we should live our life to the fullest each passing day. But it's so hard. So easy to forget when death is not knocking at your door. So easy to just take it for granted that tomorrow will always be there... when actually it may not be.
Wednesday, September 28, 2016
Clay burger
Monday, September 26, 2016
Heritage games
Can you remember the games we used to play? 5 stones, yeye (you know that game you jump over a stretched rubber bandrope ? or was it another name... oh well, when you have poor memory haha
So I decided to teach Daniah how to play 5 stones with Hana trying at every turn to steal of the stones
unless the wifi gets turned off!
Sunday, September 18, 2016
Baru dua tahun dah melatah!
Mama: you don't have a phone la
Hana: oh... Sorry mama (giggles)
Goodnight mama baby!
Saturday, September 17, 2016
Life of a future radio dj
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Conversations with daniah
Daniah: mama I almost got full marks for my English. My friend got 48.
Mama: then what did you get?
Daniah: I got 43.5
....
Face palm moment!
Sunday, September 04, 2016
Oh what talent!
Sarah drew this in preparation for her art exam. She really has got it in her but the little miss perfectionist reigns insisting it's not nice!
Saturday, September 03, 2016
The artist
This one is turning out to be quite the entertainer belting out song originals about anything under the sun!
Nico especially is her inspiration, since he is her bff for now!
Reading aloud
It's a sweet sight when you get to see the kakak reading out loud to the younger sis. Beats seeing them watching youtube on the phone any time.
I don't quite understand these two. They simply love to watch blind bag toy reviews on youtube. And inadvertently, Hana will somehow get to a tamil or hindi video!
Friday, September 02, 2016
Show and tell
This is Daniah's robot that she built for her show and tell segment in school. Made of all recycled materials, the robot was to be used as a pencil box
Quite creative I would say with the arms as pencil holders.
Wednesday, August 31, 2016
Mummy peeves
What's your mummy peeve? Mine is waking them up early for school. I absolutely hate it especially whdn they just go back straight to sleep! And here you are screaming repeatedly for them to wake up.
Funny times would be when they are woken up mid dream and starts talking nonsense "i need to take out the hairbrush first!" That coming from daniah, which is of no surprise knowing how vain she is, that her dreams would be of her grooming herself!
Bad times would be when they start throwing a tantrum for being woken up. As if this is something i had even really wanted to do!
I threw the towel with Sarah and made it clear to her that I would no longer wake her up for school, and it worked! Well to an extent... i will switch on her room light, switch off the aircon and pull off her blanket and thats the extent of it... oh and of vourse raising my voice a little more when i wake tasnym up such that the order carties to the other room! Even then, one time we found her still asleep as we were leaving which led to a mad rush on her part! Well, hope its a lesdon to her and a reminder that I meant it when I told her I was no longer going to wake her up for school... am itching to start this with tasnym too!
Funny thing though is that they have no problems whatsoever in waking up on their own and getting ready when going for events they really want to go for! Figures..
Monday, August 29, 2016
night woes
It all started about 2 weeks into Ramadan. She will wake me in the middle of the night telling me that she cant go back to sleep and insisting that I accompany her. Things were fine prior to that. We just moved home, they had a new custom made bed, and Tasnym and Daniah were sharing a room nicely.
I am not sure what triggered it. She insists there was nothing disturbing her and that she just didnt have anyone to talk to at night which dont quite make sense.
Tired out after not having very good sleep over a few nights, I decided enough was enough and asked her to sleep on the floor in my room. My intended plan of having her being tired from sleeping on the floor didnt quite work out as she has nicely settled in there for the last one month or so.
fast forward to now and she is still sleeping on the floor. Well she no longer wakes me up at night as much which is a fantastic improvement but I end up having to deal with her being on the floor. Not to mention the other sister who now searches for someone to accompany her at night when she sleeps!
It becomes a musical bed at night in my home. Even the helper had to desert her own room and start sleeping with Tasnym... I really am wondering how long this is going to last. And to think we spent so much on that bunk bed... sigh
Thursday, August 25, 2016
stay at home mum
I never considered myself as someone who could be a homebody. I am so easily bored and always thought I am going to be the worse mum ever if I were to just stay home and care for them. Now I am no longer too sure about that. For the first time ever, I start thinking about being a full time stay at home mum.
3 of my cousins are doing it and I have got to say that I do envy them. maybe, it 's because work is no longer giving the same satisfaction it used to. And as the girls grow older, I know that Hana's young years are going to fly past very quickly.
I've got to say I do miss being with the girls at home. can't say I like other parts abt being at home like having to clean up but I 've got to say that the idea of staying home don't seem to look so bad.
My flower in full bloom. pretty eh?
Reflections of a parent
Two things struck me hard as a parent today. The first was when we drove past Rachel's home early this morning. I kind of recalled that her birthday was coming up knowing that it was close to Sarah's own birthday.
As we drove past, I was brought back to the day when I was last at the house. On the day of her funeral after she was brought home from Kinabalu. It struck me how the parents may be feeling now. knowing that their daughter is frozen in time to be forever 11 years never to celebrate her birthday ever again. And it made me appreciate the fact that I still have my children with me. To lose your child is the most painful thing a parent could ever go through. I cannot imagine the pain.
My visit to AWWA in the afternoon brought abt the second reflection for the day about parenting. I saw the beauty of the children there coupled with the challenges it posed. As I stood there watching the parents send their children to the school , it struck me how much the kids are loved and cared for. That their disability did not make them less loved. They are not easy to love not easy to care for.
I was struck by the sharing by a parent on how they are challenged each day even to bring the child out. As they face the stares of others
And how we need to develop inclusion of society so that others do not bat an eyelid when they see a child with disability.
Caring for a child with disability is hard enough. Why do we then make it even harder for them? When we ostracize them and make a wide berth around them.
Parenting is hard enough
Tuesday, August 23, 2016
starting school
And so Hana is starting her journey into School life very soon
She has been registered to start at Hanis Montessori this upcoming year.
Not that she has not gone for any school yet as she has been attending parent and child classes at the Growing UP Gifted just like her sisters before. The difference thouqh is that she is attending the mandarin class with both of us trying to catch up and understand what Lao Zhi (hmmm... did I get that right?) is asking us to do!
It is kind of ironic that as much as she has learnt a little mandarin (like the words all little kids love - piku or buttocks.... to think of it what is it with kids and buttocks or other language variations of it?), she somehow does not speak Malay though the bibik tries hard to speak to her in the language.
Well not so much she does not speak it at all but the words are spoken with an English twang to it! To the chagrin of the grandparents!
Nenek: ini ikan (pointing to fish)
Hana: no not eecan, this is fish!
Football dreams
Well it certainly made the father's day to finally have someone follow his footsteps in this all girls zone. And off they went to buy her a pair of football boots with her name embroidered on it!
Well I am not going to lie in saying that she was a ronaldo in the making. That I would say lie in the twin power foreign talents the school had in 2 girls who played and dribbled the ball like stars easily earning themselves the award for top scorer and best player.
Whatever it is, the gold is around her neck, the appetite is whet for more football action and definitely many more gold medals.